5 Reasons to Ditch Distraction

No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury I am reading No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame by Janet Lansbury who teaches the importance of toddler discipline based on the RIE principles of Magda Gerber. Ms. Lansbury explains why using redirection or distraction is not a good way to handle misbehavior in children for the long-term. […]

Why Kids Don’t Listen When You Say “No”

Don’t Allow Kids to Negotiate In the book, Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction author Catherine Pearlman explains that giving attention to children doesn’t necessarily mean happier and healthier kids. Selective ignoring bad, attention seeking behaviors helps minimize or eliminate the unwanted behaviors and increases […]

Don’t Redirect Autistic or ADHD Behaviors — Just Ignore Them! Oh

Ignore It! By Catherine Pearlman I love the discipline book Ignore It!: How Selectively Looking the Other Way Can Decrease Behavioral Problems and Increase Parenting Satisfaction. The book discusses selective ignoring to help curb frustrating behaviors in healthy children and I will be reviewing the book this upcoming Saturday on our column “Weekly Trip to […]

8 Things to Do When Kids Don’t Respect You or Your Job

How to React to Disrespectful Nanny Kids I have often heard little kids yelling at their nannies saying they can get them fired when they are angry with them. I have also heard children yell, “I don’t have to listen to you! You are only a nanny!” When I have asked some kids to clean […]

When Punishments and Rewards No Longer Work

Listen with Empathy to Motivate Older Kids Have you ever noticed that as kids age using rewards and punishments that used to motivate them as young children, no longer work at encouraging them to behave? The reason for this is that as kids get older, their motivation becomes intrinsic. In an article on verywell.com, Kendra […]

Do the Kids You Care for Talk-Back?

How to Respond to Disrespectful Behavior I care for a four-year-old with a terrible habit of whining, a moody tween, and a teen that talks-back. I admit when the teen talks-back it enrages me. I know it’s normal for youngsters to whine and for tweens to be moody so why do I have so much […]

Use Natural Consequences to Discipline Children

Respecting Professional Boundaries The time to discuss with your employers how you will discipline their children is well before starting a nanny job, during the job interview. For discipline to be effective it is essential that parents and nannies are on the same page. All caregivers must be consistent and back one another other up. […]

How Kids Bully Their Nannies and Parents

Permission to Parent: How to Raise Your Child with Love and Limits I just read a great article that explained that it used to be that kids were scared of their parents. Now parents seem scared of their kids. That’s how I sometimes feel when it comes to disciplining the kids left in my care […]

How To Use Time-Outs With Toddlers

Heidi Murkoff’s Way to Teach Limits In the book What to Expect When You’re Expecting: Fourth Edition by Heidi Murkoff the author explains that got an opinion on this controversial topic of time-outs, but done right, time-outs can be an effective way to teach limits. Murkoff says that the key is to think of time-out not […]

Four Ways to Stop Kids from Whining

Break the Whining Habit Advice shared from Dr. Ray Guarendi the Author of Discipline That Lasts a Lifetime When reading Discipline That Lasts a Lifetime by Dr. Ray Guarendi you will learn that all kids whine sometimes — it’s part of their childish nature. Contrary to popular belief, not all kids outgrow the practice. Some […]