Should Parents Give their Nannies Mother’s Day Gifts?

10 Reasons to Give Gifts to Nannies

It’s no secret that the relationship between busy working mothers and the nannies who help to care for their children can be a bit strained. Mothers go to great lengths to find the perfect nanny, then agonize about whether or not the children might love her more when she lives up to her employers’ expectations. As Mother’s Day draws near, here are a ten reasons why you might want to consider getting a gift for your nanny.

  1. To Acknowledge How Hard She Work: Caring for children is no small task, even for professionals. It’s hard and often thankless work; giving nannies a gift for Mother’s Day is a great way to show then that you know how difficult their job can be.
  2. To Show Your Appreciation: A small token of this appreciation can be a great way of showing it.
  3. To Give Her the Credit That She Deserves: Mother’s Day is a day to celebrate the women who love and care for the children they’re responsible for; nannies are no exception. Nannies play a huge role in the lives of children. They deserve credit for helping in the running of their employer’s household.
  4. Because She’s the Only Mother Figure: In families headed by single fathers, two fathers, or are otherwise missing a female mother figure, a nanny might be the closest semblance to a traditional “Mother” in the children’s lives.
  5. Because She Has Children of Her Own: Nannies with children of their own certainly deserve at least a small sign that you acknowledge the sacrifices they makes with their kids in order to properly care for yours when you’re away. We send cards and flowers to friends and relatives that are mothers; your nanny should not be an exception.
  6. Because Your Children Love Her: Despite fears to the contrary, the children of working mothers do not “love the nanny more,” even if she is with them for a significant portion of their day. Rather than feeling jealous that children love their nanny, take it as a sign that they are in excellent hands with her.
  7. To Aid in Retention: Finding the perfect nanny is just the beginning; after this hurdle is crossed, there’s always the worry that she might find a better job or better working conditions elsewhere. Giving her a small gift on Mother’s Day can help her to feel valued.
  8. To Show Camaraderie: Working moms and the nannies who help their houses run smoothly are in the trenches together. Showing nannies that you think of them as a partner rather than a rival can be done quite simply with a small Mother’s Day gift.
  9. Because She’s Been With You For Years: A nanny that’s been caring for your children for the bulk of their lives is one of the only people who knows their hopes, fears, and needs almost as well as you do. After years at her post, a nanny has been instrumental in the raising of the household’s children and her contributions should be acknowledged.
  10. She’s Part of the Family: It’s not uncommon for working parents to consider their nanny a part of the family; one that goes on vacation with them and spends the bulk of her time caring for their children. If you’re one of those parents, getting her a small Mother’s Day gift to show it is sure to be a gesture she’ll treasure.

Your Mother’s Day “gift” to your nanny doesn’t have to be a tangible offering; instead, it might also be a good idea to show your appreciation for her by giving her the day to do as she pleases. While she’s enjoying that gift, Mom can enjoy her special day with her children.

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Given to us by becomeananny.com in 2012 to publish on our blog

I Can Handle It! By Laurie Wright

Weekly Trip to the Library

Life is stressful and frustrating. The key to good mental health is learning to cope with stress. Adults often think kids don’t have anything to be stressed about. But children experience stress and anxiety just as much as adults yet lack the maturity to problem solve as well as adults.

One of the most common phrases I hear from frustrated children and adults is, “I can’t do it!” Such negative self talk creates more stress and anxiety rather than encouraging problem solving.

Mantras are a great way to replace negative self talk, and especially helpful for the times when children or adults need to calm themselves.

Reading children’s books with kids is always a great way to help kids learn. This week I recommend I Can Handle It! by Laurie Wright for children who are showing signs of stress, anxiety, frustration, or depression. Your Nanny Kids will incorporate the mindful mantra “I Can Handle It” almost immediately after reading this book.

In a tough situation or when dealing with tough emotions they will think “I can handle it!” Even if they aren’t saying the words out loud, if they learn and practice this mantra it will become a part of their self-talk.

Positive self-talk is incredibly important for improving and maintaining mental health and the mindful mantra books are a way to plant that positivity right into a child’s head. Help your Nanny Kids learn to handle difficult emotions along with the main character in the book named Sebastien, and provide a tool for lifelong confidence.

Depression and anxiety don’t discriminate and our kids need help. I Can Handle It! equips children with a necessary skill to alleviate everyday anxieties that arise in their lives.

You can purchase your own copy of this book by clicking any of the links above or below:

I Can Handle It (Mindful Mantras)

10 Religious Easter Children’s Books

Weekly Trip to the Library I found these children’s books at the library to recommend to nannies and parents who feel that Easter has become too commercialized. If you want to share Easter books that have more religious meaning (than just focusing on Eater eggs filled with candy for children) I have listed some good […]

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6 Children’s Books for Passover

Weekly Trip to the Library Tonight starts the celebration of Passover. Passover is my favorite Jewish festival that celebrates the freedom attained by the Hebrew people following their exodus from Egypt where they had been slaves for either 430 years or 210 years, depending on the scholarly conclusions one follows. During the Seder tonight children […]

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Braided Easter Bread

Cooking With Kids There is no better aroma than walking into the home with the smell of fresh bread baking in the oven. Making bread isn’t difficult as long as you have plenty of time to knead it, allow it to rest, rise, and braid. In preparation for Easter, I allow my Nanny Kids to […]

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Cool Whip Easter Eggs

Creative Wednesday’s I have loved making shaving cream Easter Eggs with my nanny kids in the past. But, it is safer using whipped cream than shaving cream when working with toddlers since kids may put their fingers in their mouths while doing the project. Protect the surface before starting the project and you may want […]

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The Opposite of Spoiled by Ron Lieber

Talking About Money with Kids One thing all parents and caregivers can agree to, no matter their socioeconomic level, is they don’t want to raise spoiled children. Ron Lieber discusses all the difficult topics surrounding money and children in his book The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous, and Smart About Money. […]

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Making a Model Lung

Science Fun: How Lungs Work This model demonstrates how lungs work. Air is taken in through the mouth and nose, passes down the windpipe and into our lungs. The straw represents the wind pipe. The diaphragm at the bottom of our chest moves down to create more space. As we breathe out the diaphragm raises […]

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The Debate Over Using Time-Outs

Properly Using Time-Outs Whether to use time-outs with children or not has become nearly as polarizing as whether to vaccinate children, letting babies cry-it-out, and spanking. If you admit to using time-outs with children on social media you will be criticized for rejecting toddlers and preschoolers at the time they need your attention the most […]

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Understanding the Difference Between Gross and Net Pay

Nanny Taxes On social media nannies often express that they are shocked when they get their first paychecks from a new job and realize the amount is lower than they expected when offered the job. The confusion often occurs because parents typically offer nanny candidates a Gross wage but the Net amount employees take home […]

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