Do the Parents Respect Your Privacy?

Parent/Employer Checklist

Yesterday we discussed how important it is for nannies to respect their employer’s privacy. Today we list the privacy issues parents who employ nannies should consider.

1. Respect fair hiring practices and laws. Do not ask the nanny about their religion, race, sexual preference, and so on.

2. Provide private sleeping quarters for live-in caregivers.

3. Provide private bathing accommodations, phone use, and email access when possible for live-in nannies.

4. Do not gossip or share personal information about the nanny with friends such as salary, contract negotiations, or pet-peeves.

5. Do not enter the nanny bedroom or inspect nanny personal items without permission (call a police officer for assistance if theft is suspected).

6. Do not read the nanny’s personal letters, emails, look in drawers, or snoop into their personal belongings.

7. Be upfront about use of nanny cams in public areas of your home.

8. Never use nanny cams in personal areas such as bedrooms or bathrooms.

9. Create a confidentiality clause for employees to sign that they won’t repeat personal information to others.

10. Avoid excessive prying into employee private time or private lives.

11. Teach your kids to respect the nanny’s private space when she is working and her time and space when she is not working.


  1. I agree with this list, except have a question with respect to au pairs who are provided cell phones and a car by the family for their use in their job. Is it ethical for the family to check through the phone they have paid for after the au pair leaves and read her messages as they clean out the phone for the next au pair’s use? I have a problem with reading her phone text messages during the year but wonder about once it’s been handed over. It seems a problem because she’ll have personal stuff written that the family doesn’t need to know. Also, is it ethical to have GPS on that phone or on the car – and if yes, is it ethical then to only check the whereabouts of the au pair and your car(with the kids inside) during her work day?

    • I think it’s okay for parents to use GPS on phones and cars and tell their nanny they have GPS on phone and car. I think if the parents are providing the cell phone the nanny should know that the phone is for work and not personal usage and obviously realize you can read the texts and see who she calls after she gives you back the phone.

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