In the May, 2008 The Journal of Applied Developmental Psychology published a study entitled, “What happens when parents and nannies come from different cultures? Comparing the care giving belief systems of nannies and their employers.”
When Nannies and Parents Come From Different Cultures
June 1, 2009 7 Comments
The June 2009 issue of Be the Best Nanny Newsletter discusses the findings in the study in detail.
The differences between the American mother and nannies that were raised in other cultures were:
1. Requiring a baby to go to sleep “independently” vs. holding the baby to prevent crying as he or she falls asleep.
2. Requiring a child to do things for himself vs. helping him by doing them for him.
3. Talking to a child as an equal and negotiating with her vs. telling her what to do based on adult authority.
4. A more relaxed approach to dressing a baby warmly enough vs. bundling a baby warmly for protection from the elements.
5. Learning from experts and books vs. learning from the personal experience of a respected member of the family.
6. A mother’s devotion to personal achievement and multitasking vs. a mother’s single-minded devotion to her maternal role.
7. Adults guiding children’s play in educational directions vs. child-directed play.
In each of these seven contrasts, the first practice or belief is of the American mother. In contrast, the second practice or belief represents the nanny.
Have you experienced any cultural differences between you and your parent/employers?