This New Year Think As If Others Can Read Your Mind

The way you feel about yourself affects everyone you come in contact with. Your attitude determines your level of job satisfaction and determines your actions towards the children left in your charge.

You actually sabotage your happiness, job satisfaction, and job performance by automatically complaining to yourself about stuff you have to do at your job. If you criticize yourself, you project that bad self image to others influencing them to think less of you also. And worst of all, your negative thinking can rub off on the kids in your care.

It doesn’t take mind-reading for people to accurately perceive your level of job satisfaction. In his book, 100 Simple Secrets of Successful People: What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It, David Niven, Ph.D., explains your employers, co-workers, and family clearly understand, even if you haven’t said anything about how satisfied you are at your job. Realize that in your tone, demeanor, and body language you are communicating what you are thinking and feeling about your job.

But, if you portray a positive attitude, the good energy rubs off to those you come in contact with.

To counteract negative thinking, start each day with positive thoughts about your job. Ask yourself how you want to positively influence the children each day. How does it make you feel good when you help the parents that hired you? What do you want to accomplish at work today? Jot these positive things in a journal and carry it with you in a backpack or diaper bag. When you are frustrated at work, pull out the journal and remind yourself of the fun times you have had at work.

When bad things happen at work, (as they do at all jobs), take a deep breathe and give yourself a moment to re-establish a positive attitude by focusing on what makes you feel good.

When you are thinking very negatively and having a hard time changing your feelings, write down your negative thoughts, then crumple up the paper, and throw it away.

If your boss is in a bad mood don’t take it personally. Accept that 99% of the time the bad reaction someone makes has nothing to do with you, but the mood someone’s in, says Rebecca Gladding, psychiatrist and coauthor of You Are Not Your Brain. If your conviction wavers, checking in with the person to see what’s up, or asking a friend for better perspective, should help she says.

Be sure to maintain a balanced lifestyle with enough exercise, sleep, an active social life, and healthy food to maintain a good attitude.

Remember, you don’t have to say how you feel out loud for others to know what you are thinking. But, how you think influences everyone and everything around you. To be successful and happy at work, try to think positively in the new year.


You Are Not Your Brain by Rebecca Gladding

100 Simple Secrets of Successful People, The: What Scientists Have Learned and How You Can Use It by David Niven, Ph.D.

How To Quit Your Negative Thinking For Good by Kate Rockwood

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