January To-Do List: Keeping New Year’s Resolutions

Dr. Phil’s Seven Steps to Reaching Your Goals

1. Set a realistic, measurable goal.
2. Identify the small but necessary steps you must take to reach that goal.
3. Set up an environment that supports your new lifestyle, rather than relying on some vague emotional “will power.”
4. Commit to a timeline, with specific deadlines, that pushes you to achieve your goal.
5. Find a “resolution buddy” — someone you trust and can count on — who will definitely help hold you accountable in obtaining your goal.

Successfully executing any personal strategic plan for change requires that as you develop your plan, you effectively incorporate these seven steps for attaining each and every goal.

1. Express your goal in terms of specific events or behaviors.
For a dream to become a goal, it has to be specifically defined in terms of operations, meaning what will be done. When a goal is broken down into steps, it can be managed and pursued much more directly. “Being happy,” for example, is neither an event nor a behavior. When you set out to identify a goal, define what you want in clear and specific terms.

2. Express your goal in terms that can be measured.
How else will you be able to determine your level of progress, or even know when you have successfully arrived where you wanted to be? For instance, how much money do you aspire to make?

3. Assign a timeline to your goal.
Once you have determined precisely what it is you want, you must decide on a time frame for having it. The deadline you’ve created fosters a sense of urgency or purpose, which in turn will serve as an important motivator, and prevent inertia or procrastination.

4. Choose a goal you can control.
Unlike dreams, which allow you to fantasize about events over which you have no control, goals have to do with aspects of your existence that you control and can therefore manipulate. In identifying your goal, strive for what you can create, not for what you can’t.

5. Plan and program a strategy that will get you to your goal.
Pursuing a goal seriously requires that you realistically assess the obstacles and resources involved, and that you create a strategy for navigating that reality. Willpower is unreliable, fickle fuel because it is based on your emotions. Your environment, your schedule and your accountability must be programmed in such a way that all three support you — long after an emotional high is gone. Life is full of temptations and opportunities to fail. Those temptations and opportunities compete with your more constructive and task-oriented behavior. Without programming, you will find it much harder to stay the course.

6. Define your goal in terms of steps.
Major life changes don’t just happen; they happen one step at a time. Steady progress, through well-chosen, realistic, interval steps, produces results in the end. Know what those steps are before you set out.

7. Create accountability for your progress toward your goal.
Without accountability, people are apt to con themselves. If you know precisely what you want, when you want it — and there are real consequences for not doing the assigned work — you are much more likely to continue in your pursuit of your goal. Find someone in your circle of family or friends to whom you can be accountable. Make periodic reports on your progress.

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  1. As I look at the state of the economy (job picture) and recall seeing a headline last week about how Baby Boomers approaching retirement and worried about sociol security, I take advice from seeing who said on some morning show last week about becoming your own best advocate for your career and advancement.So resolutions this year are related to what I can being doing to staying marketable (this could be education, staying on top of my portfolio, resume, references just in case) and other avenues in which I can save my economy or increase it. Whether it is in this industry or some side job that relates to working with children.

  2. My new years resolution is to try to seee the world through the eyes of my always-enthusiastic little charges.

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