It is not a nanny’s business how much money their employers make or how they spend their money. But when parents give tons of pricey gifts to others, but neglect to give a gift or bonus to their child care provider, it understandably hurts a nanny that is struggling to make ends meet.
Many nannies feel jealous of their wealthy employers. But I urge nannies to not base their happiness on what they can and cannot afford.
Nannies are not the only workers that may sometimes feel jealous over how much their employers have. Administrative assistants sit just a few feet from the executives they work for who may earn tens or even hundreds of thousands more than the assistant.
To overcome negative feelings, nannies must keep their attitude and expectations in check. I urge nannies not to covet what their employers and their children have. The reality is that nannies won’t make the same amount of money as their employers and they should not ever expect to. It’s important for childcare providers to create a budget, live frugally, and live within their means.
My recommendation to parents is to be sensitive to the fact that their caregiver may be struggling financially. They shouldn’t forget to pay their nanny on time, don’t skip holiday bonuses, or neglect giving them a cost of living wage raise annually — if they can afford it.
Of course if parents cannot afford to give their caregiver a raise and bonus all they need to do is simply have a conversation with their nanny to explain that.
But, actions speak louder than words and nannies do notice if parents are spending a fortune on frivolous trinkets but are unwilling to pay her fairly.
My recommendation to nannies is to live within their means. Stick to a budget. Don’t compare your wealth to your employers. Don’t base your happiness on income.